Teddi Mellencamp still lives with ex Edwin Arroyave and wants him to date other women as she battles cancer
The reality star, whose Los Angeles mansion was targeted by burglars, opened up about her unusual living arrangements in an appearance on the Jamie Kern Lima Show on Tuesday.
When the pair first separated in October 2024, they opted to let their kids, Slate, 12, Cruz, 10, and Dove, five, live in their family home full time while Mellencamp, 44, and Arroyave, 48, took turns.
Mellencamp's friend Kyle Richards provided a space for her to stay and once joked, 'I have shared custody with Teddi Mellencamp. She lives with me on Tuesdays and Wednesdays,' on Bravo's Hot Mic podcast.
After Mellencamp was diagnosed with brain tumors and stage four cancer, that situation changed.
Though there are times when Arroyave has stayed at their other house, when Mellencamp told him she was feeling 'really sick,' he decided to stay 'downstairs in the bedroom at our house right now.'
She also said she wants him to start dating someone new.
'We can live in the same house,' explained Mellencamp. 'We don't argue.
'I always knew he'd do the right thing by me,' the former Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star said.
'If he wanted to, he could still be filing and finishing this divorce off right now. But, my dad [musician John Mellencamp] and family just said like, "I don't think this is the right thing for her to be able to try to navigate right now or figure out."'
'It was like, "Yeah, of course. No, we'll wait. We'll wait until she's better, and then we'll figure it out."'
Mellencamp was rumored to have been involved in an affair prior to the official split, but in an appearance on The Skinny Confidential podcast in February, she hinted strongly that Arroyave's infidelity had been a problem for years.
'Me and Edwin had some of the most amazing years and the most amazing times, and when we met it was hot and it was all the things, and then there would be somebody else,' she admitted.
'And I'd be like, "It's okay, I'm gonna work through it, I'm gonna make him love me more!" Then you have kids and things happen,' she continued.
Now she is giving him her blessing to see other women. 'I would be fine with him dating,' she told Lima.
'Is he fine with you dating?' the host asked. 'I don't know. We've talked about it.
'I think everyone is my life is worried about me in general. So, for a little while, I was dating somebody.
'It went all over the press and everybody's talking about it and I'm like, "One: this is long enough ago that by the time you found out who the person was I wasn't dating the person.'
The former reality star said she also talked to her therapist asking, 'if I feel the urge, if I get asked on a date or if somebody wants to take me out, she's like, "You should go."
'She's like, "Anything that you want to do right now and you feel in your heart that you want to do, do it." She's like, "It could be if [Edwin] asked you on a date and you wanted to go, nobody's setting any rules for you."'
As for for herself, the personal trainer said, 'for a little while, I was dating somebody. It went all over the press' but the relationship has since ended
Mellencamp said that 'right now, I'm not wanting that from him.'
'I just want him to be happy, and I want our kids to be happy, and I want us to be able to have a good friendship and relationship,' she explained.
'I don't want to do anything to hurt him,' she said, adding, 'I kind of know how our marriage works.'
Although she referred to Arroyave as her ex-husband at one time in the conversation , the personal trainer joked that she was unsure about 'what you call somebody you were married to, then you filed for divorce, and then you got cancer, so then everything went on hold.'
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