Bride Feels ‘Like a Third Wheel' Because Groom's Female Best Friend Is Controlling Wedding Planning
The woman admits the female friend has been around longer than she has
The woman claims her fiancé even consulted his female friend about her thoughts on the future bride's wedding dress inspiration photosA bride says she's watching her fiancé's female best friend plan their wedding from the 'sidelines.'
The bride-to-be admits she's lost control of planning her big day since her fiancé's best friend of over a decade has benched her. The best friend has helped the woman's fiancé pick out the wedding's color scheme, the signature drinks for the occasion and she's even gotten her hands on the event's Pinterest board, the woman claims. All without including her.
'I never thought I'd feel like a third wheel at my own wedding… but here we are,' the bride-to-be confesses on the Reddit forum page titled 'wedding drama."
Since the couple got engaged, the best friend has assumed the position of wedding planner with the woman's fiancé planning everything, 'and I'm just watching from the sidelines,' the bride writes.
The bride admits her fiancé's best friend has been around longer than she has, but that her actions still feel invasive.
'It feels like the two of them are throwing this wedding while I just sign off on their choices,' the woman says.
The bride says she's beginning to get the impression that her fiancé would be more comfortable planning a wedding with his best friend than with his bride. All the while he's making comments that his best friend 'has great taste' and that she's 'just trying to help,' the woman says.
If planning the event's color scheme and mood board wasn't enough, the fiancé consulted his best friend on the bride's selection of wedding dress inspiration photos — without telling her.
'Like this isn't our day anymore. Like I'm being sidelined in something that's supposed to be one of the most meaningful moments of my life,' the woman writes.
When she's tried discussing the situation with her fiancé, she claims that he does not see the issue at hand and instead thinks she's overreacting to the situation. The bride admits that she's scared to push the issue further since it might result in a fight or her looking insecure.
'But staying quiet is eating at me,' she says.
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Asking the forum page users for advice, the bride admits that she doesn't 'want drama, I just want to feel like I matter in my own wedding.'
'My mother told me how a potential employer treats you before you are hired is the best they will ever treat you,' wrote one user in the comments section. 'Your heart is already telling you something is wrong. If you can't have a conversation about this, you aren't ready for marriage. You are being sidelined in your own relationship now. It won't get better unless you can work this out now.'
This came with a big self-realization for the bride as she admitted she's felt this now for a while, and the user's comment confirmed her feelings.
'That's exactly how it feels, and reading it written out by someone else makes it impossible to ignore,' the woman wrote back. 'I keep making excuses for him, hoping it'll change once the stress of planning is over, but deep down I know this isn't just about the wedding.'
The bride admitted that while her fiancé allowed her to be pushed aside easily, he also seemed totally okay with it.
'Oh, for goodness' sake. Who is he marrying?' asked another forum user. 'You need to stand up for yourself.'
They continued to tell the woman it's time for her to sit her future husband down and ask why his best friend's opinion is more important than his future wife's.
Another user said that with the answers to those questions, she'll get her answer on how she's going to feel in their marriage.
'This isn't about her. It's about him,' the user wrote before continuing. 'I'm appalled and offended on your behalf that he's showing her YOUR wedding dress options.'
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