'I'm Surprised How Many Grown Adults Act Like Children': Women Are Sharing The Things In Life They Simply Won't Put Up With Anymore

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Choosing your peace, regardless of societal norms or the challenges you may face, is not easy. But, coming out on the other side with an indescribable sense of inner-peace can make the uphill battle truly worthwhile.
So when Reddit user u/PuddingComplete3081 asked the question, "What's one thing you stopped doing because it no longer brought you peace?" in r/AskWomen, I was very interested to hear all about how women were releasing the things in their lives that no longer served them:
1."Dating. I'm surprised how many grown adults act like children."
—u/elitejackal
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2."Being friends with the parents of my children's friends. Just because our children are friends or play sports together doesn't mean we have to be friends!"
—u/hmm_this_is_hard
3."Shaving my legs. It's very relaxing to have shaved legs, but it is very stressful maintaining shaved legs. They were prickly for a while, but they're just as soft now, even softer maybe, than when I was shaving them."
—u/amosant
4."Watching reality TV. It's now a treat on planes — but I was a full-blown Real Housewives historian and addict. I realized it zaps my dopamine. So now it's but a treat for travel, and I'm happier!"
—u/Automatic-Ad-2120
5."Going to the beach…wild, I know. But I live on the coast, and it just doesn't do it for me anymore, unfortunately."
—u/LaundryAnarchist
6."Texting back right away. Waiting a little made me realize I don't have to be everyone's 24/7 person, and urgency isn't real, giving myself space to reclaim little pockets of sanity."
—u/Bopobabe
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7."True crime podcasts/documentaries. I used to love them, but I can't handle them anymore."
—u/slaughterhouse-four
8."Trying to 'fit' into women's fashion. I'm sporty and do not have an hourglass figure. I've got muscular thighs, a strong core, and broad shoulders. I used to fast and contort myself to make dresses, slacks, and tight sexy clothes fit me. Now I enjoy muscle shirts and loose shorts over tights most of the time. My dress attire is 'nice' tights and a loose men's button-up."
—u/BarbarianFoxQueen
9."Drinking, for the most part. I may partake in one or two during a social occasion, but I don't really go beyond that. Getting drunk is just not fun anymore like it was when I was young, and hangovers are absolute hell at 42 years old as well."
—u/amyria
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10."Stopped trying to talk to my father-in-law. After years of everyone telling me my father-in-law is just a simple, gentle soul when actually he's a passive-aggressive fuck, I met his passive aggression with, as the saying goes, massive aggression, and now he's punishing me by not talking to me. Oh no, my life is now peaceful and not full of snark. Whatever will I do?"
—u/wwaxwork
11."Keeping company with people I'm not at ease with. I have social anxiety, so my friend circle is significantly smaller, but I feel so much better prioritizing relationships that feel safe and genuine."
—u/GranpaGrowlithe
12."I retired from a long-term hobby/profession I'd been involved with for more than 25 years. When I started it, it was a great source of calm and peace for me, and it became a constant companion through a long portion of my life. The habit and discipline of it were still strong, but eventually I realized that it wasn't fulfilling in the ways it used to be for me and that it was time to step away and try new paths for a bit."
—u/tinfoilhattie
13."Going to my boyfriend's holiday things when it means skipping out on my own. I spent years skipping my own family's get-togethers to go to theirs. And for what? They never skipped theirs for mine. Not that I blame them because my family is small and boring, but it's still no excuse to put them second to my own family."
—u/Ohp00p
14."Speaking to my parents."
—u/eeveesEm
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15."Keeping up with people (old friends) just because we were close at some point in time."
—u/Complex_837
16."Everything. Not like everything, but like anything that doesn't bring me joy. I've gotten selfish. I don't force myself to do anything I don't want to."
—u/Relevant_Potato_1335
And finally, here's how someone worked to find their peace without makeup:
17."Makeup. For quite a few years in my late teens, it was my comfort blanket. I'd feel embarrassed letting my parents and close friends see me without it. Realized that trying to 'fix' my flaws so that I felt more comfortable day-to-day was only causing me to hyper-focus on those flaws and feel miserable in the long run."
"I gradually eased off at first, only wearing some eyeliner and mascara every day, then only some days, then no makeup at all unless it was a special occasion that required dressing up. Finally made the decision in my mid-20s to chuck every single product away and never purchase or wear it again, regardless of the occasion. I feel much more content and free. The money saved ain't too bad either."
—u/wingardium-tapioca
Do you have a list of things you've let go of in your life because they no longer brought you peace? Let me know your thoughts and stories in the comments.
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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